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Queering Valentine’s Day

Posted on | February 9, 2015 | 132 Comments

Two years ago, self-proclaimed “Queer Feminist” Sara Alcid complained about the heteronormativity of Valentine’s Day:

“Heteronormativity and gender roles also rear their ugly heads on Valentine’s Day. Gifts for ‘him’ or ‘her’ are clearly divided and marked and it’s almost impossible to find cards that represent queer couples. . . .
“It’s not hard to see why Valentine’s Day is problematic for many feminists. Celebrated traditionally, Valentine’s Day magnifies many of the very systems of domination that we work to critique and dismantle.”

Yes, it’s tragic that advertisers and greeting card companies aim their marketing efforts at the normal 98% of us, rather than pander to the 2% niche market of LGBT-OMG-BBQ-WTF.

In Canada, feminist Kayla Spagnoli — who was an organizer of SlutWalk Ottawa — is fighting against heteronormativity:

Pink Triangle Services has graciously let us use a board room at their office to host a feminist mixer to get together to make Valentine (or Anti-Valentine) Day cards.
We will be supplying card stock and supplies, as well as lots of non-hetero-normative, queer and non-binary card ideas! There will also be tea and candy.
This event is *FREE* but we are asking for a $5 donation if you are able to help cover some supplies and to give back to PTS.
PTS is a safe space*, we are asking everyone to be kind and considerate of the other attendees ie: ask for proper pronouns. Please no strong perfumes. There are non-binary washrooms available. There is an elevator if needed. PTS office is on the 2nd floor of the building.
PTS is having their Women’s Night who will also be welcomed to join.
Everyone is welcomed! Please spread this event.
#FemMixer #Ottawa
*friendly reminder that safe space is not the same as an empowered space.

“Gee, Stacy, how do you find these kooks?”

You have to dive headfirst into the craziness, my friends. So I was searching Twitter for “heteronormativity” — one of the buzzwords of Women’s Studies, an academic swamp crowded with lesbian radicals — when I discovered Ms. Spagnoli boasting of her success in promoting her queer Valentine’s Day event on social media:

Curiosity led me to discover (a) she and her twin sister Jenna have a site called Feminist Twins, (b) Kayla was raised Catholic, (c) she’s bisexual, (d) she is a mortician and (e) she’s been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD).

Before we get to the mental illness, let’s hear about the sex part:

i had sex last night . . .
it was my second date. i knew by the first i would have sex with him.
there alot of different things I want to talk about here, its hard to narrow it down … slut shaming, growing up catholic, love, mental illness, feminism, body positivity … I don’t really know where to start. . . .
I get really moody and unstable when I get in relationships so why can’t I just date and not force myself to feel like I HAVE TO FIND [MR … maybe MS] RIGHT RIGHT NOW!?! . . .
Anyways, we will see where this goes. I don’t think he is “the one” . . .
The thing that makes me the saddest is it took a stranger (well not a complete stranger) and NOT A boyfriend to help me see how people can have [actually] good, [actually] consensual sex. I guess that speaks volumes about the a–holes I have been dating.

So (a) she’s a bisexual feminist, (b) she’s a SlutWalk organizer and (c) she’s been dating a–holes and having bad sex.

Did I mention she’s crazy? Because I covered the 2013 D.C. SlutWalk, and the vibe of serious mental illness was so heavy I think half of them had gotten day passes from St. Elizabeth’s so they could participate. It takes a special kind of crazy to march topless through the streets of Washington, D.C., waving signs and chanting slogans about rape. The solution to that kind of problem isn’t equal rights, it’s Thorazine.

It was a lesbian friend who first told me about the prevalence of borderline personality disorder in the lesbian community. This bit of trivia I filed away in my mind, half-forgotten, until I encountered Women’s Studies professor Lisa Johnson, who organized a pro-lesbian event at her university. In 2010, Professor Johnson published a book, Girl in Need of a Tourniquet: Memoir of a Borderline Personality, describing herself as a “psycho girlfriend” with a history of dysfunctional relationships with both men and women.

Yes, this makes perfect sense to university administrators: Give the “psycho girlfriend” a Ph.D. and put her in charge of your Women’s Studies program so she can host the performance of an event for students called, “How to Be a Lesbian in 10 Days or Less.”

This is not to suggest that all lesbians are crazy. Certainly, few of them are crazy enough to be professors of Women’s Studies, a field pioneered by genuine lunatics like Mary Daly and Joyce Trebilcot. Back in the day, my freelance research in the effects of hallucinogenic drugs led to some serious craziness, but if I’d started babbling about the gender binary and the heterosexual matrix, or ranting that “destruction of the incest taboo is essential to the development of cooperative human community based on the free-flow of natural androgynous eroticism,” the way Andrea Dworkin did, I’d probably be doing the “Haldol Shuffle” in a psychiatric unit somewhere. (As opposed to being a professional blogger, a career that requires complete sanity.) You need a Ph.D. and faculty tenure before you can get paid to spew the kind of deranged gibberish taught in Women’s Studies classrooms, so the amateur feminist nutjobs on Tumblr are frequently disappointed that few people appreciate their volunteer craziness. Kayla Spagnoli recently got a clue:

“Thinking about shifting my activism from feminism to mental illness. It’s been a long time coming. Jason has always wondered why I gave so much to a movement that has always lashed back. It makes sense.”

Follow that clue, Kayla. And stay away psilocybin.

After I engaged Ms. Spagnoli on Twitter, feminists rallied to her defense. This replicates a pattern I observed in 2013:

What you discover is that radicals have two discourses: The exoteric discourse, used when speaking to outsiders, is about “choice,” “equality,” “health,” etc. The esoteric discourse, used among fellow radicals, is an entirely different vocabulary: “Smash patriarchy,” destroy “heteronormativity and gender roles” and “systems of domination.”
And when you pull back the exoteric mask to reveal the esoteric truth of radicalism . . . well, that’s intimidation, you haters!

Feminist ideology is not merely anti-male and anti-heterosexual. The feminist movement is anti-fact and anti-truth.

We are not deceived, because we are not insane.




 

Category: Feminism, Sex Trouble

Comments

132 Responses to “Queering Valentine’s Day”

  1. GayPatriot » When Did Feminism Become So Insane and Depraved?
    February 9th, 2015 @ 9:07 pm

    […] Now, feminism has gotten all crazy and whatall. […]

  2. IceBerg77
    February 9th, 2015 @ 9:34 pm

    Not really, and they’re no
    more screwed up than your average hetero person. I understand your religious beliefs left over from medieval Europe force you to paint these people as inherently evil, and to find any justification to demonize them, but mine don’t. Cherry picking statistics doesn’t make your case either. And if homosexuals do suffer higher rates of depression it’s because of stigma and demonization at the hands of the religious right.

  3. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 9:35 pm

    https://twitter.com/SeverEnergia/status/564932192581582848

  4. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 9:55 pm

    Except that doesn’t happen to be true countries where same-sex “marriage” has been legal for a decade or more, that their psychological problems have either not changed or have actually increased in pro-homosexuality, pro-homosexual “marriage” locations:

    (A.) Dutch, Netherlands:

    http://www.rnw.nl/english/video/dutch-gays-and-lesbians-more-likely-contemplate-suicide

    http://archpsyc.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?volume=58&issue=1&page=85

    (B.) Sweden:

    http://people.ucalgary.ca/~ptrembla/homosexuality-suicide/02-gay-lesbian-suicide-sweden.htm#2002-study-1245

    (C.) Norway:

    http://www.youth-suicide.com/gay-bisexual/news/norway-gay-lesbian-suicide-study.htm

  5. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 10:17 pm

    When I worked in the Cali State Hospital system there were so many “therapists” who were clearly BPD themselves, us nurses said some very unkind things about them behind their backs. The patients really manipulated the hell out of these so called therapists.

  6. Tom Otm
    February 9th, 2015 @ 10:39 pm

    cf: your “What you discover is that radicals have two discourses: The exotericdiscourse, used when speaking to outsiders, is about “choice,” “equality,” “health,” etc. The esoteric discourse, used among fellow radicals, is an entirely different vocabulary: “Smash patriarchy,” destroy “heteronormativity and gender roles” and “systems of domination.”” to Slate star codex http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/11/03/all-in-all-another-brick-in-the-motte/

    and

    http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/radicalizing-the-romanceless/

  7. Jeanette Victoria
    February 9th, 2015 @ 10:50 pm

    Hide your daughters Rose is looking for a new Valentine

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2946465/Rosie-O-Donnell-says-feels-like-lesbian-cougar-s-single.html

  8. M. Thompson
    February 9th, 2015 @ 10:57 pm

    Most therapists don’t have their own lives straight, and their kids are screwed up.

    Note my brother’s current girlfriend.

  9. M. Thompson
    February 9th, 2015 @ 10:59 pm

    I think I’m luck. My fiancee hates the idea of Valentine’s Day just because of how stupidly commercial it is.

  10. Ciampino
    February 10th, 2015 @ 2:44 am

    It used to be when I was a teen in the 60s (that dates me) it was a day meant for both young men and ladies to buy a card and possibly a gift to send to someone we appreciated and loved from afar – from a secret admirer. It’s only when it got commercialized that it became ‘he needs to buy her a gift so that he can get sex’. I never see ads for her needing to buy him something. What gives?

  11. Ciampino
    February 10th, 2015 @ 2:47 am

    Also it’s an easy major, and minor if one needs a credit or two.

  12. Ciampino
    February 10th, 2015 @ 2:52 am

    Your last sentence belies your first statement – LOL.

  13. Daniel Freeman
    February 10th, 2015 @ 3:04 am

    I thought that you couldn’t treat a personality disorder with pharmaceuticals — that it’s like running a buggy program on a different computer. Still buggy.

    ETA: Never mind, the anti-depressant would be to wall-paper over the effects of living a depressing life, not to fix the underlying cause.

  14. Ciampino
    February 10th, 2015 @ 3:05 am

    Refreshing … LOL

  15. IceBerg77
    February 10th, 2015 @ 3:12 am

    I said “IF”, dummy. What do you guys get out of demonizing homosexuals? It’s pointless, and all the slippery slope arguments about what happens if we normalize homosexuality are unfounded.

  16. Daniel Freeman
    February 10th, 2015 @ 3:21 am

    Ditto for comics fandom. (The collecting is a separate issue.)

  17. Daniel Freeman
    February 10th, 2015 @ 3:27 am

    For a skill check, you can still fail on a critical success, if the task is impossible — such as living forever.

  18. Dana
    February 10th, 2015 @ 7:32 am

    As nearly as I can tell, she is treating her personality disorder by writing about it on the internet; I’m uncertain just how effective that method of treatment is.

  19. Dana
    February 10th, 2015 @ 7:35 am

    She gives him sex; that’s his present!

  20. Dana
    February 10th, 2015 @ 7:40 am

    Well, nuking the island would make sure that no one sailed there and let the inmates escape. But, other than that, you can rest assured that they’d all die of starvation.

  21. Dana
    February 10th, 2015 @ 7:43 am

    You do realize, of course, that with that trigger warning I just had to click on the link, even though there was a 12 oz coffee beside me.

  22. Dana
    February 10th, 2015 @ 7:43 am

    You clicked on it, too, didn’t you? 🙂

  23. Just a guest
    February 10th, 2015 @ 8:24 am

    You noticed that didn’t you. It really is an argument devoid of facts. This is one of the best time ever to be gay.

    IceBerg77 is just repeating the same old empty arguments the queers use

  24. laura_PH
    February 10th, 2015 @ 10:48 am

    Yes. You know how people say, “I threw up in my mouth a little,” to express extreme disgust? I *literally* threw up in my mouth a little.

  25. laura_PH
    February 10th, 2015 @ 10:51 am

    Yes. It’s heartbreaking to deal with. Someone in my family was diagnosed with it, and we’ve been on this rollercoaster for years now.

  26. Burn_the_Witch
    February 10th, 2015 @ 3:00 pm

    No one said anything about religion. Try again with a fact-based rebuttal instead of a strawman.

  27. Burn_the_Witch
    February 10th, 2015 @ 3:01 pm

    No one is making a slippery slope argument or “demonizing” anyone. These are simple, data supported observation. You’re even helping yourself here, let alone the general argument you’re trying to support.

  28. Bob Belvedere
    February 10th, 2015 @ 6:11 pm

    RSM wrote: Feminist ideology is not merely anti-male and anti-heterosexual. The feminist movement is anti-fact and anti-truth.

    It is, IOW: a celebration of The Culture Of Death.

  29. IceBerg77
    February 11th, 2015 @ 12:38 pm

    All arguments against homosexuality are based in religious supersticion, and morality.

  30. Burn_the_Witch
    February 11th, 2015 @ 2:59 pm

    No, they’re really not. Not that anyone is arguing “against homosexuality” in the first place.

    But thanks for not even trying.

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