Sexual Disorientation
Posted on | February 6, 2015 | 170 Comments
Caitlin Stasey (@caitlinstasey) is a 24-year-old Australian actress who became a child star at age 12 in a series called The Sleepover Club. Her smiling face, however, concealed a world of inner emotional turmoil. Growing up in a sex-obsessed society seems to be a profoundly frightening experience for many girls nowadays. The decline of marriage and the destruction of moral norms are part of a cultural syndrome that produces what I have called “a sort of social epidemic of bipolar hysteria, in which minds unmoored from cultural tradition constantly shift between utter confusion and radical certainty.”
Both confusion and certainty are evident in the account Ms. Stasey shares with readers at her new feminist site Herself.com:
I had an oddly dichotomous upbringing, my father an atheist, my mother agnostic & my education Catholic. I was sent to a Catholic school primarily because of class sizes. . . . After entering high school (also Catholic) I abandoned the notion of God in the Christian sense; I couldn’t reconcile the church’s stance on sexuality with my own views. I became incredibly hateful of religion & am now resolute that it is one of the greatest tragedies to befall mankind. . . .
My parents were incredibly thoughtful, attentive & loving but there was certainly no love lost between them. It felt as though every moment of peace was heavy with the anticipation of another fight between them. . . . [G]rowing up around that much resentment was incredibly stressful. I think I may be one of few children to feel relief upon hearing my parents were divorcing. My exact words, according to my mother, were “Good.” . . .
Puberty was devastating for me. I suddenly had stretch marks all over my body, cellulite, hair, lumps, acne. . . . I was embarrassed by the changes I was going through and I had no real outlet for my confusion but, more than anything, I was embarrassed by my interest in sex, one that was present in me LONG before puberty. . . .
I would have vivid dreams about other women. Every night I’d drift off into this utopia of women being available to me & knowing nothing other than my desire for them. There was no one in my life who also expressed these desires, no one in the entertainment I consumed, the books I would read, the company I kept. A lack of monumental events shaped my sexuality, masturbating in secret, telling no one, saying nothing, concealing all sexual queries or thoughts. . . .
I’ve known I was mostly gay ever since I can remember. I know it troubles many people for me to refer to myself as a lesbian considering I have a male partner. . . .
FULL STOP. Ms. Stasey is currently in a relationship with actor Lucas Neff, 29, recently notorious for his hatred of Republicans:
‘Guns kill people. Men murder women.’
Actor Lucas Neff’s anti-gun rant goes ‘beta’
‘Anti-choice’ ‘scumbag women’: Actor Lucas Neff
says more female GOPers don’t make party less sexist
So girls who grow up masturbating to lesbian fantasies are into guys like Lucas Neff. Go figure. Back to Ms. Stasey’s account:
My vagina has been an unending and constant source of turmoil for me — not that vaginas are intrinsically female, it’s just happened to be a big part of womanhood for me personally — [urinary tract infections], PH imbalances, sexual dysfunction, pain, discomfort. Sexual education is no way near comprehensive enough as all of these things I’ve had to learn myself, treat myself & diagnose myself. I’m still struggling to gain control over my body, over my vagina. . . .
Growing up in dueling worlds — Catholic & secular — my relationship to my sexuality was constantly in flux. I tried not to think about it unless I needed to masturbate. Instead of it being a part of me it felt like a weird compulsion I had to take care of every now and then and then try to forget about. I used to pray every time I touched myself and I would cry myself to sleep, fearful of the wrath of God, guilty for my sins etc. etc. . . .
FULL STOP. Notice that in the conflict between her “dueling worlds,” Ms. Stasey is certain that it’s the “wrath of God” part that’s wrong, rather than her own perverse compulsions. Because I’m not Catholic, I have no idea what Ms. Stasey was taught in her schools. Growing up Baptist, I learned that humans are naturally sinful and can only be saved through grace. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus” (Romans 3:23-24). Furthermore, “we know that all things work together for good to them that love God” (Romans 8:28). Knowing this, through all my backsliding and wickedness and troubles, I never lost faith nor doubted the righteousness of God.
Excuse me for preaching, but some people can’t seem to get their minds around this concept of total human depravity and salvation by grace. Dude, back in the day I dealt dope in felony weight. I worked as a strip club DJ. I’ve seen total human depravity face-to-face, and have survived to tell you Jonathan Edwards was right: We are sinners in the hands of an angry God, deserving nothing but destruction, with no hope at all but grace. We can never deserve salvation by our own merit (“filthy rags” Isaiah 64:6) and thus can have no pride or self-righteousness. Yet despite our utter wretchedness, we are called to the service of the Lord of Heaven and Earth. “If God be for us, who can be against us?”
Well, Caitlin Stasey is certainly against us:
What is your political stance on women’s reproductive rights?
No one anywhere ever should EVER be able to tell a woman what is right for her body regarding her reproductive rights. If you’re pro life/anti contraceptive, swell, just keep it to your f–king self & practice it, don’t enforce it on others.
Are you pro life or pro choice?
Super duper pro pro pro SUPER PRO choice. I volunteer at a clinic that performs clinical abortions & escort patients to the waiting room from their cars, just to help them avoid harassment & so that they can see that they are supported.
What are your feelings about contraceptives? Their availability, cost, stigma, usage?
Contraceptives should be free, they should come in a wide variety pertaining to the needs of the individual & should be available on every f–king street corner.
What are your feelings on casual sex?
As long as it’s consensual, casual sex is an incredible tool to empower yourself with, help you learn your own body & its needs. Just BE SAFE.
Are you in a relationship(s)?
I am in a somewhat open relationship with the love of my life. We are not polyamorous but do not limit ourselves physically.
What are your feelings on marriage?
As an archaic institution it’s just awful, as a modern culture it’s even worse. The wedding industry is exploitative & gendered & drives the women who feel compelled to participate to madness. However, I’m an advocate of empowering women to do what THEY want & as long as they’re getting married because they TRULY believe it’s what THEY want & not what is expected OF them, then go for it. . . .
What are your feelings on monogamy?
It’s so pointless, painful & archaic. If it works for you and you genuinely find true contentment within monogamy then by all means endure it, but the fact that it’s the status quo is truly discriminative.
You can read the whole thing, which is illustrated with naked photos of Caitlyn Stasey, but I’m sure no Christian would be tempted to sinful lust for her after reading the hideous madness that pours forth from her disordered mind full of “vile affections” (Romans 1:26).
In my studies of radical feminism for the “Sex Trouble” series, I’ve noticed that this combination of personal confusion and political certainty is so common as to be typical. Kate Millett, Andrea Dworkin, Joyce Trebilcot, Laurie Penny — these are all “broken people,” as Professor Reynolds said, sharing the radical conviction that those of us who are normal, sane and happy are the real problem in the world.
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170 Responses to “Sexual Disorientation”
February 8th, 2015 @ 12:17 am
“Mr. Black” is typical “Concern Troll.” As Daniel Freeman notes above, documentation is necessary, because as we know, so many women who identify themselves as “feminists” refuse to acknowledge the origins of their movement. Concern Trolls are truly concerned with one thing: stopping the conversation. Because conversation (and documentation) bring the issue into the light. Concern Trolls don’t care about speaking truth; they care about subverting it.
February 8th, 2015 @ 1:07 am
People throw the word “troll” around a lot and most of the time it’s to avoid the task of rebutting opposing views or uncomfortable observations. What prompted me to reply on this thread, as I rarely do, was when I clicked on the RSM bookmark the thought in my head was “there will be some kind of deviant sexual article right at the top”. And there was. And the reason I knew that is because there ALWAYS is. If you took away the deviant sexual content from this blog, what’s left? Election content for a few months every two years and…? What?
February 8th, 2015 @ 1:21 am
I’m sure RSM linked her page where there are numerous nude photographs for the “intellectual” value. Do you really expect people to believe that horseshit? And rule 5, what’s that, bikini research for everyones Harvard fellowship?
The content is deliberately lewd and smutty, because that what draws eyeballs. The difference is, I can freely acknowledge that I clicked the link to look at her body and really didn’t care what she said, you all have to pretend it’s “research” to follow a link to a young girls tits.
She’s troubled and doesn’t know how to appropriately express herself, fine, I can get that. But I’m not going to run out to help her and neither are you. But we both looked at her ass, didn’t we? We’re no different, except for the fact only one of us has honest motives.
February 8th, 2015 @ 3:56 am
Yes. 24. I hope that she gets a mimosa or vodka cran, since it sounds like she could use the nutrients in the fruit juice.
February 8th, 2015 @ 4:26 am
Well, that answers my question. You originally compared our attention to perversion to a porn addiction, and then effectively compared the subjects of our attention to nude sunbathing. You just conflated the two analogies, and I’m only explaining this for any third parties reading the thread, since it’s clear now that you’re not rational.
February 8th, 2015 @ 4:36 am
Wow. So you’re aware that we’re uninhibited about following Rule 5 and looking at pretty girls. That evidence contradicts with your conclusion. Has it occurred to you that your conclusion might be wrong?
February 8th, 2015 @ 5:07 am
It’s a bit difficult for me to know who’s represents the majority view here. The commenter above says it’s an intellectual exercise to read about a young girls sex life while you say its pure voyeurism and you’re just here for the tits.
Perhaps you’d like to compare notes and decide which view is the majority?
February 8th, 2015 @ 5:13 am
Perhaps you would like to re-read the part where I clearly explained that those are two separate things, and your hypothesis that we need an excuse is pure bunk.
February 8th, 2015 @ 5:13 am
I feel that you lack the educational attainment to discuss this with me as you persistently misrepresent what I say and twist it into new meanings that better suit your talking points. If you address what I wrote rather than what you prefer to talk about, I’d be happy to explain why you’re wrong anyway. If you’re not capable of understanding what I wrote, then you can return to whatever it is you do when you’re not confusing yourself on the internet.
February 8th, 2015 @ 5:16 am
How does your claim stand up when RSM posts something about homosexuals, still just voyeurism or does that require switching tracks onto the “intellectual” line?
February 8th, 2015 @ 5:18 am
Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that you were an Unfrozen Caveman Lawyer who would be confused and frightened by the concept of analogies being conflated.
February 8th, 2015 @ 5:21 am
You’re being silly and difficult by pretending not to understand that I’m saying that we don’t read the non-Rule 5 ones for titillation. That is of course why it doesn’t require switching tracks; because there is a common fundamental cultural issue that needs addressing.
February 8th, 2015 @ 8:53 am
Aha! It appears that I’m actually an avatar of Zeta Puppis, if I’m going to be cobalt-blue, so I’m declaring that it’s an awesome name. My story and I’m sticking with it! 😀
February 8th, 2015 @ 9:21 am
What Mr Black didn’t know is that I’m like him, in a way. I know his kind too well, and only became an ex-troll because the counter-trolls became too good. They began as trolls, and perfected their craft to the point where everyone else was boring. I knew when I was outclassed and checked out of the game, but I don’t mind being a counter-troll in a little grassy knoll like this one.
February 8th, 2015 @ 1:21 pm
Not only that, but she expects us to pay for her contraception and abortions. She feels perfectly fine with forcing HER beliefs on the rest of us by making us pay for her depraved sex life. This chick is a total hypocrite.
February 9th, 2015 @ 12:54 am
Riiiight. So rule 5 tits are titillation, but a troubled lesbians tits are purely intellectual.
This is why the comments section is so entertaining here. Any sensible person can see that ALL the articles that just happen to have graphic descriptions or depictions of sex/naked woman are expressly intended by RSM to titillate his audience. Again, he is a professional journalist, he’s not writing for his own benefit, he’s writing to attract and audience and his adoption of rule 5 shows he knows exactly what his audience is after.
But he can’t post rule 5 every day without appearing like a smut peddler, so he posts “intellectual” articles about a young girls tits. And then people like you pretend that some tits really are intellectual, while others are just plain fun to look at.
I’m done, I’ve got the answers I expected. Until next time gentlemen,
February 9th, 2015 @ 7:50 am
>”Some people think they can decide what gender you are by how you look.”
But yet she thinks that by calling yourself the opposite sex AND DRESSING UP IN THE STEREOTYPICAL ATTIRE you are literally that sex?
February 9th, 2015 @ 7:51 am
She’s attracted to women and she’s dating a beta acting that acts tough by preaching liberal hipster talking points? Say it ain’t so.
February 9th, 2015 @ 7:52 am
As someone that has a problem with porn, masturbation, orgasm, (PMO) I want to click the link, but I mustn’t.
February 9th, 2015 @ 4:05 pm
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